Organise practical tasks
Keep treatment and test schedules, the medication list and contact numbers together. Agree who will attend appointments, help with meals and housework, and take over if needed. Write down questions before appointments so they are not forgotten under stress.
Ask what help the patient wants. Some people want a relative at every appointment; others prefer some conversations to be private. Respecting that choice is part of care.
Report changes promptly
Pain, nausea, fatigue, eating problems or poor sleep are not things the person must simply endure. Note when they occur and affect daily life, then discuss them with the treating team. Do not change painkillers or other treatment yourself, or add herbs or supplements without agreement.
If appetite is poor or eating is difficult, request an individual assessment. Do not insist on a universal “anti-cancer” diet or promise that a food can replace treatment.
Watch for infection
Some cancer treatments increase infection risk. Good hand hygiene and avoiding contact with people who are ill are important. Agree in advance which symptoms to watch for and which number to call outside usual hours.
During chemotherapy, a temperature around or above 38°C, chills or other signs of infection require immediate contact with the oncology team. Follow a lower temperature threshold if one has been given. Do not mask a fever with medicine before obtaining advice. For severe breathlessness, unconsciousness or sudden serious deterioration, call: 112.
Palliative care is support
Palliative care focuses on quality of life, symptom relief and emotional needs. It can be discussed during active treatment, not only at the end of life. With advanced illness, the plan reflects the patient’s comfort, wishes and dignity.
Protect the family’s wellbeing
One person does not have to do everything. Share tasks and ask for help before exhaustion becomes overwhelming. A calm presence and willingness to listen are often more valuable than finding the “right” comforting words.